Wish In One Hand

An acquaintance of mine has a saying, which is, “Wish in one hand and shit in the other. Which one do you think will fill up first?” I think that saying is a great illustration of the reality of wishing versus doing. It’s the whole, “shit or get off of the pot” mentality, that so many of us are lacking. I’ve known a lot of dreamers in my day; people with their heads in the clouds, constantly wishing and hoping, and even praying for the things they want, or don’t have. Interestingly enough, it’s always those people who never achieve their goals. If you sit around and wish into your hand, all you’ll get is an empty hand.

I actually do have a long list of wishes. None of which I’ve never articulated, but will do so now. Hopefully getting these wishes and dreams into print will be a little motivation to make them happen. It’s time to get off the pot, folks.

1. I wish I was thinner.  Duh. You all know this one already. My plan is actually in action right now. I’m exercising, walking with my kiddo, and enjoying life. I’m eating well, and avoiding things I know are not good for me. I am no longer sitting on my duff lamenting the current state of my being. Moving, doing, achieving this wish is liberating.

2. I wish beer didn’t have any calories. OK. This one will never happen, but I think it’s a good wish.

3. I wish I could rollerblade. Seriously – I’m not good. I’m going to practice, though, and get better.

4. I wish people were nicer to each other. I have a friend that is so nice to other people. He starts conversations. He laughs, and makes people feel at ease. He’s a great person to pattern behavior after, when it comes to the greater good. I have decided that to try to make people nicer to each other, I have to be kinder myself. Watch out… hugging might be next.

5. I wish I wasn’t so emotional. On one hand, I love that I’m emotional. I laugh OUT LOUD always. I smile at people I pass, and always tell people what they mean to me and how I feel about them. My problem is, I really, really want people to reciprocate my emotion, and end up being disappointed and disillusioned. I CANNOT TAKE THIS ANYMORE. I vow that in order to achieve this wish, I will give my feelings freely, without thought or expectation of return. This, my friends, is the only clear path.

4. I wish I was a priority in someone’s life. Wow. This is a hard one. I have spent my entire life putting others feelings and wishes ahead of my own. I hope that someday I can find someone who will think of me first. I hope that there is someone out there in this big world that wants to be my partner, my lover, my protector, my caretaker, and my friend. I expect to achieve this wish by being honest, authentic, real, and irreplaceable. It’s a start, right? I’m fully aware that this dream may never come to fruition, but at least I’ll be a better person for the trying.

 So here’s the thing. Can we try to fulfill our wishes together? Share your wishes with me, and I’ll be happy to help, as long as you’re ready to work a little.